What is Your Identity?

When we meet new people for the first time, we ask them:
“Who are you?”

What would you answer, if you were asked this question?

The first answer most people give, is:
What’s their name
Where they work, and what they do there
If they are studying, and what subjects

When we connect further, we get to learn about:
Their relationship status
If they are a parent or grand parent
Where they live
Where they grew up
What they studied in school
What age they have
Their hobbies or interests
Their political view on subjects that comes up

All these things are what we use to Identify ourselves,
Who we are.

Most likely, we never think much about Who we are.

Throughout our life, we have heard those answers, more or less, to this question.
We took it on as a fact, this is our identification.

What then, when life changes, and you can no longer relate to those aspects?

When we Lose Our Identity

A close friend of mine got sick, and became unable to work.

For the first year, he had sickness leave from his work place.
It was easy, he had his job, and knew what to answer.
Just unable to work at the moment due to health problems.
He was very optimistic, and couldn’t wait to get back to his job, which he loved.

Time passed, and his sickness leave ended.
And he found himself unable to work, not even a few hours.
He had tried that.

Another year passed, and there has been not much of a change.
He was invited to a party, with some of his friends.
As we do on parties, we mingle, and get to know people we didn’t know from before.
People asked him: “What do you do?”
He didn’t want to reveal that he was unable to work because of his health.
So, he answered with his name, and his education title.

Next year came.
My friend was still very focused on getting back to work, he loved his education very much.
But he started to realize that it could take a little bit of time.
Being asked “Who are you” became a bit of a challenge.
Would he ever be able to get back to work, and use his education?
So, he started to answer with what else he loved.
Like photographing, reading, and listening to music.
The fact was, he tried all he could to get healthy again.
Eventually, they would ask him what he does for a living.
Out of other options, he would say that he’s on his most important work ever, getting his health back.
And then they would ask what had happened to him.
He didn’t want to answer that.
His illness wasn’t Who he IS.

Neither his work title.
Or his education.

 

Losing your Identity can feel traumatic.

When, what you have thought of yourself, your whole life, is gone.

You have to get to know yourself.
Again.

For most people this happens through illness, or death of someone close to them.
Or you get to lose your job.
Or getting divorced.
The same goes for when we wake up one day, and realize that we are Strangers in our Own Life.

You don’t have to go through those events, in order to change what you think of yourself.

Who Are You?

It’s time to rebuild ourselves.

It’s time to stop letting the outside world determine us.

It’s time to remember who we Truly are.

 

You are a Divine Being, in a Human Body.

You are an Amazing Spirit and Soul.

 

Think of all the things that makes You Special.

What qualities do you have?

Loving
Caring
Brave
Intelligent
Creative
Nurturing
Being Present
Intuitive
Healer
Lightening up those around you

Take some time and think about it.

What do you feel?

When we shift to think of who we are from an Inside Perspective,
we feel better with ourselves.
We are not depending on an outside world to give us identification.

In the beginning, it can be a little frightening.
This is completely normal.

Be gentle with yourself.

Now, you can choose to change aspects of yourself, if you want to.
Become a more loving person, or patient with your children.
Become less stressed, or angry.
You can strengthen specific qualities in you,
and change the ones you don’t like so much.

You are Free to Choose Who You Want To Be.

 

My best wishes for you.

 

What’s there for you to Learn?

All things that happen in our lives – good or bad – carry an opportunity for us to learn from the experience.

I know how it feels like when everything feels like a struggle, or there seems to be no way out of a problem.

It’s easy to fall into the ditch of self pity, and feel like a victim of Life.
Calling your friends for sympathy, having them agreeing with your view on the situation.
After all, you did the best you could do!
It’s not your fault that the economy is going down, and the politicians make everything even worse than it was.

Just keep an open mind for a bit…

When we decide to open up our thoughts for the possibility that there is a bigger picture at play, something shifts in us.

You get a glimpse of Hope.

Ask yourself:
“What can I learn from this situation?”

 

If it’s an illness or pain in your body, ask that part of your body if it has a message for you.
Maybe you need to change something in your diet, exercise more, or just have more fun in your life!

If your parents have a hard time to show you compassion and support, maybe they are missing it themselves.
Talk with them.
You might discover that when they were young, their parents told them that they must be realistic and get a real job, not follow a fantasy.
Now, you give both yourself and them an opportunity to heal.
And maybe getting a better relationship too.

If your company closes down because of the economy, you might realize that you never even liked your job that much, in the first place.
Now you are free to apply for an another one, without feeling guilty for choosing something new.
Or go back to school to learn something new!
Even start your own business, and follow a long-lost dream.

Or, as in a story I read today.
A young woman working as paramedics in an ambulance.
In her work, she saw children being afraid of following the ambulance.
It can be a traumatic experience for every adult, to rush off to the hospital, when you are sick or have been in an accident.
Fear of the unknown makes everything worse.
So she came up with the idea of entertaining the children, to make their ride a little less scary.
She started by making balloon animals using plastic gloves.
After new year, just a few weeks ago, she created a Facebook page, and asked people to knit small teddy bears, that they could give to the children in the ambulance.
Now, the response is so good, that they might have enough tiny teddy bears for all of the ambulances in the country.
A small gift that gives support, hope and comfort in a traumatic time.
Her idea and initiative, changes the lives of many children in her community.
Thanks to this wonderful woman, and all those loving Souls donating knitted teddy bears.

 

Every adversity is an opportunity for you to grow as a Human and Spirit.

Every problem is a potential Treasure.

It doesn’t matter if it’s in your Personal Life, or in your Community.

Use it to improve your Life, and the World.

Be ready to understand yourself and others more.

Be ready to follow your new insight.

How to Stay Centered in Times of Turbulence

This time we are living in, is more intense than ever before.
There are so much going on, both on the inside and around us.
Everything is happening at a much quicker pace than it used to be.
What, just a few years ago would take months, now only takes days or a week.

I see this so clearly when I’m talking with my friends.
When it’s been some time since last time we caught up, it becomes obvious.
My friends ask me about something that was going on in my life back then.
And I… It feels like ages ago.
Almost a different life.
How did they even remember that?
I can barely remember what happened yesterday, as it feels like I’m spinning too quickly.

It’s also hard to plan ahead, for things I want to do or learn.
By the time I get to it (after finishing what I’m currently doing), I have shifted into new desires.
Or, I just get started and I’m very excited, and 2 weeks later I want/need something else.

And it’s not only in my life, or inside of me.

We are constantly bombarded with information.
From news media, Facebook, Instagram, TV, radio, movies, TV series, walking down the street.
And we kind of feel it’s expected from us, to be up-to-date on everything, at any given time.

Not just that we are constantly bombarded with information, but also the amount of variety in the stuff coming up.
I guess that, no matter where on the Globe you live, you’ve heard about the American President Election that took place last year.
Just that 1 thing, a never-ending thriller of intensity and variety on accusations, drama, speculations, secrets, you name it.
It’s like they had to stuff it with everything possible.

Maybe you are going through your own life changes too.
Feeling you need to change your job, but don’t know what to do next.
Or, you need to move to a new location, but there seems to be something about everywhere you consider.
Changes in friendships, relationships, and family.
Illness, either for yourself, your family or friends.
Economy burdens.

You are not alone.
Most people have more and more things coming up.
It seems like everybody has enough going on in their own lives.

It can feel overwhelming.

This overload of everything that is happening at once, leads to anxiety, stress, sleep problems, constantly body aches, illnesses.

If only there were something like a filter, so we could sort out what we want to take in, and experience…

What you can do

Breathe.
Breathe deep into your stomach, and exhale slowly.
Repeat until you feel more relaxed.
I have noticed that when I breathe deeply and slowly through my meditations, I can calm myself by just breathing deeply a few times, when I get a rush of overwhelming feelings.

◊ Ground and balance your Energy with the Universe and the Earth.
Close your eyes and visualize that your energy goes up and out your head.
Connect to the Universal Light above you.
Take this with you, down into your body, and let it go through your body, down to your feet.
Here let it go out of the soles of your feet, and down into the Earth, like the roots on a tree. Connect to the Center of the Earth, and bring this energy back up through your roots, into your feet, and up your body, until the top of your head.

Read/listen to news only when you feel calm and centered.
Now, you can get a more objective view on it, without getting caught up emotionally.
Most of the news are negative, and spinning on fear.
You do not help anyone by entering a state of fear, hopelessness or depression.

Take a vacation leave from news, even social media.
It can be for 1 day to 1 month. It’s up to you.
Tell your friends and family that you are on a break, and they can tell you if something very important is to be known about.

Take time for yourself regularly.
You have more to give to your family, friends, work, and everyone around you when you take care of your Soul, and what you need to feel better.
See my post What Fills you Up?.

◊ Spend time in Nature.
Nature has a calming effect on us, and helps us to think more clearly.
It doesn’t need to be in the forest or on a mountain top.
Being in a park is also good for us.
Even being surrounded by some flowers and plants in our home.

◊ Meditate.
Meditation helps us to slow down our heart rhythm, and has a calming effect on us.
With some practice, it makes us able to think clearer, have better insight in ourselves, getting more in touch with our intuition, make better decisions, and much much more.
There are many forms of meditation, from breathing, to focus on a single point, to guided meditations to make you feel better, or discover parts of yourself.
If you are new to meditation, you can read my post Meditation Made Easy and Meditation to Release Tension and Self Healing.

◊ Release your fears and negative emotions.
I can’t stress enough, how important this is.
Suppressed emotions get stored in our bodies, and eventually can create illnesses, that we have to heal on our own.
They also work as an magnet that attracts challenges in our life, so we eventually will see them.
We are in a time where we don’t have the “luxury” to close our eyes and say that life is “hard”.
Read my post How to Release your fears and Heal your emotions to easily understand how you can free yourself.

Exercise
The best way to move stagnant energy in our body, is to move our body.
It can be walking for 15 minutes, running or bicycling, or dancing.
Do what gives you joy, and do it several times a week.
Yoga and qigong are also good ways to move your energy and body in gentle ways.

◊ Being in the Moment.
ALL we have is THIS moment.
If we live our lives in the future or the past,
there will -eventually- come one day, that we’ll regret not living our lives, or treasured those around us.

◊ Be kind with yourself.
We have a tendency to be hard on ourselves, and don’t think we are good enough.
This is not true.
We are Wonderful just as We Are.
Treat yourself like you treat your best friends.
Tell yourself how proud you are of what you have done.
You are so much better than you let yourself think!

◊ Be Positive.
The good thing with time spinning quicker, is that whatever is going on, won’t stay like this for too long.
Change will come.
Use the time to figure out what you want, and why you want it, so you are ready when the time for new opportunities are there.

I hope you found this helpful.

I’m wishing you all the best in your Life.
And, take good care of Yourself.

A Different View on New Year’s Resolutions

New Years Eve!
2016 is behind us, with all of its good memories, lessons, and wisdom learned.
2017 is just hours away, a blank new chapter in our lives, waiting for us to color the pages.

Some years ago, I used to make New Year’s Resolutions, a new promise to myself in the New Year.
I got of good, filled with fresh inspiration and motivation.
Then life happened, and things did not go as I had planned.
I realized that Life is bigger than my Mind’s perspective.
What I thought was what I wanted, wasn’t what my Soul needed, or had in mind for me to experience.

So, I let my Soul have its space, and give me what was up for me to learn, both good and less good.
In our Soul’s perspective, everything is good for us, even what seems otherwise from our Physical point of view.
It have been a memorable journey, which I wouldn’t be without.
As a Spirit, I have grown a lot in these years, and I found the Love of my Life – my Amazing Husband!

This time, for 2017, I have decided on a different view.
Instead of going the traditional way, I will do one month at a time.
In the start of each month, I will write a list of what I want to learn, or experience.
I’ll let it be from both Physical and Soul’s Perspective.
For example, for January, I will start with learning more about Traditional Chinese Medicine, and also go inwards and communicate with my body on the inside.

It’s easy to get caught up in either the physical or spiritual plane, and at times it is needed.
We need both parts to keep balanced.

By planning one month at the time, I won’t lock myself down into a planned schedule, but stay open for even better opportunities to come, and what I will need at the time.
This way I won’t feel I’m failing, or take too much on my shoulders, when I need something else instead.

One important message I have learned, is:
“Don’t be too hard on yourself.”

We are our own biggest judges, and have harder to credit ourselves when we do good.
Be proud of yourself, however it goes.
Love yourself, you are Amazing, just as you are.

I am ready to keep with me all what 2016 have given me, and open for all 2017 will give me.

Let’s have a Wonderful New Year Everybody!

 

You are not your problems

Most of us have something in our lives that worries us.
Either big or small issue, it seems impossible to clear it away completely.
No matter what you do, the thoughts comes sneaking in every now and then, saying hello, letting you know they are still there.

Now that December is here, and Christmas is coming close, so many are feeling the pressure of everything that is to be done for the Holidays and New Year’s celebration.
Wherever you turn, you get reminded of all you should do – buy nice clothes, buy gifts, longer working hours, bake cookies, get all the food you need, and the list goes on.
As it is a time for joy and happiness, it’s also a time of stress.
And surpressed feelings surfaces.
Lack of money, and not feeling you are good enough, that can’t give what you feel is expected from you.
Not to forget all those who feel extra much on their loneliness in this days.

When a problem get your attention, it’s easy for more of the same to come in and join the party.
What starts with reminders of buying gifts, can easily slip into thoughts of not having enough money, then thinking of that you really need a new laptop and how to afford it, who to buy gifts for, who are really your friends anyway, everybody else seem so happy, and you feel more alone than ever.

Remember,
You are not your problems.

Look at the strangers around you.
What do you see?
Most likely you notice those who seems happy, smiling, having friends, spending their money….
What you feel you are missing in your life.
How can you know that their life is perfect?
You don’t.
You can only see this moment.
Their life might be falling apart, but you can’t see it.
Their problems are not who they are.
The same goes for you.

Focus on this moment, right here and now.
On what you are doing.
Life is so much more than worries.
When we get hung up on a problem, it’s like we get blind shades on, and our vision narrows down to what is wrong our lives.
Gently remind yourself of this moment, and you will break the cycle, one step at a time.

When we are able to see the bigger picture, what we felt was a big problem, might not be that big in perspective, as we let ourself see and feel.
Then, your worries lose some of their power on you.
And you open up for a solution to come, because you have a bigger perspective, and can see beyond the blinding shades.

Problems that shows up in our lives, are lessons for us to learn.
Ask yourself, what can I learn from this experience?
The answer might not come right away.
Maybe do you need to give it time, a night of sleep, or meditate on it.
When we focus too hard on finding answers, we are blocking them from coming clearly to us.
Distract yourself, and it will come to you when you least expect it.
It might also come through other people, telling you something, or you read an article or a book, and when you read a word or some lines, it just hits you, you know the answer.

Once you have learned the lesson on Soul Level, it might not come up again, unless it is a part of a bigger picture you can not see yet.
But, you can clear up one lesson at a time, and for each one you will get better in total.
Like one piece in a puzzle find it’s correct place in the picture.
Thank the problem for showing up, so you got a chance to clear up in your Life Lessons.
For each lesson you learn, you will shine a bit brighter, and feel a bit better.

One thing I have learned is;
Don’t be too hard on yourself.

You are a wonderful Soul,
And nothing can take that away from You.

Meditation Made Easy

We are living a big part of our lives in an always-on-mode.
Always doing something.
Even when we are relaxing.

How much of your day do you spend in just Being?

All of our thoughts, emotions, experiences, stress, are all a form of Energy.
Energy never ends, only changes form.

So, what happens to all of our stimulation through our days?
It is swirling inside and around us, in our minds, bodies and Aura.
If we don’t take time to re-center ourselves, in ourselves, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and stressed.
For a shorter period of time, this might make us feel alive, running our system on adrenaline.
In the longer run, it might make us feel exhausted, having problems with sleep, anxiety, headaches, and illnesses shows up.
This is our body’s way to signal to us that we need to take a break.

Thankfully, our bodies have several natural ways to re-center, without us having to do anything.
Spending time in nature, walking bare foot on grass, taking a bath or a shower, sleeping.

The only catch is, that if we never stop up, and just Be, it’s harder for our bodies to find their own balance, in the mix of our daily lives.
When our minds are always on, our system has to sort everything in those few hours we are sleeping.
That can be a lot to process.

This is where meditation comes in

There are many forms of meditation; guided, sound, mantra, visual, focused, feeling, and more.
Each with their own benefits.

In this blog post, I want to focus on just Being, and letting go of thoughts.

This is something we all do from time to time.
When we are taking a shower and feel the water running over our bodies, and everything else stops.
Looking at a sunset, and getting lost in it’s Beauty.
Walking in the nature, when we forget our thoughts, and just take in the Majesty.

The benefits of choosing to spend some time every day on meditation, are many.
Feeling more relaxed and calm, increased clarity, your senses become clearer, getting more in touch with your intuition, and less caught up in stress when something happens in your life.
These are just a very few of a very long list.
Try it out for yourselves, and see how it improves your life!

And, it doesn’t have to take hours, 5 minutes here and there do a difference too.
With some time, you might find yourself longing for those 15-30 minutes in silence.

For taking the preferred time of your meditation, there are many apps out there, that are more gentle than the alarm on your phone.
Personally I have found one that is very simple, and is asking for no permissions on my Android phone.
You can download the APK here: Medigong Meditation Timer, Webpage.
Or in Google Play here: Medigong – Meditation Timer.
Of course, you are free to find what works best for You.

How to meditate

◊ Find a quiet place for yourself, where you won’t be disturbed.
Set your timer, if you prefer to have a specific time, and it will notify you when your meditation is up.

◊ Sit with your back straight, or lie down with your hands by the side of your body.
Keep your palms open and facing up.

◊ Start by grounding and balancing your Energy in the Universe and the Earth:
Close your eyes and visualize that your energy goes up and out your head.
Connect to the Universal Light above you.
Take this with you, down into your body, and let it go through your body, down to your feet.
Here let it go out of the soles of your feet, and down into the Earth, like the roots on a tree. Connect to the Center of the Earth, and bring this energy back up through your roots, into your feet, and up your body, until the top of your head.

◊ Put your intention for what you want from the meditation, by saying inside you:
“It is my intention to re-balance my Energy in my Body, Heart, Spirit and Soul in this meditation.”
This is not needed, but I find it beneficial.

◊ Breathe in deeply, and exhale slowly.
Continue to do this throughout your meditation.

◊ Let go of your thoughts.
When a thought comes up, observe the thought and let it pass.
You can imagine yourself standing in front of a railway line, and your thoughts are trains passing by.
You are not running to jump on board, just simply standing where you are.
Or, you can imagine your thoughts like balloons in your hand, and for every thought coming up, you visualize it as a balloon attached to a string you are holding in your hand.
Let go of the string, and see the balloon flying up in the sky.

◊ It’s important to acknowledge all thoughts that come up, and not push them away.
By pushing them away, you resist them, and thereby giving them more strength.
With time, thoughts will become less, and you will find more stillness in your mind.
You are doing everything right, be proud of yourself.

◊ Continue for as long as you feel like, or until your timer give you the signal that you have finished.
Move your arms and legs, and open your eyes.

◊ Now, give yourself 2-3 minutes in silence, before you get back on your phone, interacting with others, and doing stuff in general.
This is to give yourself time to reorganize your energy and come back into your body.
By skipping this step, you might feel shaky, and easier get caught up in the energies around you.
When we meditate, we are opening up our energies to the Universe, and we need to get them back into our space, and let the Energetic Shield around us close up.
There is nothing you need to do here, just relax for a few minutes.
You can also stamp your feet on the ground or floor, and drink some water.

What you might experience

When we start to meditate, we let go of the holding-onto-everything, and let our minds and bodies come back to their natural state of Being.

Thoughts hold Energy, and suppressed thoughts and feelings are stored in our physical bodies.
For an example, every time you hold yourself back from saying your honest opinion, this creates an energy of blockage, and this get stored in your body.
We all do it, without knowing it.
When we are getting freed from the control of our thoughts, we give our bodies a chance to let go of what they are holding on to.
In the beginning, your every day thoughts will flow through.
With some practice, deeper stored feelings might surface.
Just let them go, as you do with your thoughts.
If you feel you need to work more on them, you can read my blog post
How to Release your fears and Heal your emotions.

This release of thoughts, is a releasing of resistance and stress in our system, and can make us feel sleepy, tired, having some kind of headache, restlessness, tingling, pain in our bodies, a sense of air flowing inside of us, needing some time for yourself afterwards, and more.
All of this is absolutely normal, and a sign that your meditation is actually working!
Don’t worry, the above effects are not lasting for too long.

After some time of meditating, you will feel calm, centered, uplifted, more creative, more in sync with everything, having clearer insight on a problem that might arise, you are more present in the moment, you will feel more calm where you would earlier be overly stressed, and your immune system will improve.

If you find that you forget to meditate, or don’t have time, it is perfectly fine.
Just come back the next day.
Or use 2 minutes when you wake up in the morning, or before you fall asleep.
This is nothing to be hard on yourself for, but something to make you feel better.

I hope you will enjoy your time in meditation.

 

Unclutter your Home

There is a saying that goes “When you own more than 7 items, the items own you”.

To be honest, we use maybe all of them just to get dressed in the morning.
But there is truth in those words.

The more stuff we own, the more space it takes up.
All of those things, lying around in drawers, or boxes in a storage room, do hold a part of your energy connected to them.
If it is stuff that make your life easier and better, it’s good.
Many of us, specially in the Western World, do have way more things than what we need, or benefit us.

It is a fact, we won’t understand how much stuff we have, before we are packing it all down for moving into a new home.
Even then, we put up what we want in our new home, the rest goes back into boxes and put away, to again be forgotten.
So what, we think, it might come handy one day.

I do understand that it isn’t that many years ago, since our parents or grandparents didn’t own much, and had to look after what they had.
This belief that we have to keep most of our stuff, and it’s hard to replace it, is still imprinted in us.
And it’s still valid for many of us.
But, this creates an energy of neediness, that there won’t be enough.
This imprint of lack, can block our energy flow in health, money, good luck, basically all areas of our life.

Many years ago, I started going through my stuff, to see what I actually wanted, and needed to keep.
The rest of it, I tried to give away to someone who needed it, sell it, give it to charity, or if it was broken, throw it away.

I would ask myself:
Is this something I have used the past year? Yes or No.
Is it something I will get to use in the coming 2 years? Yes or No.
Is this making my life easier and bringing me joy? Yes or No.
If I could answer Yes, I would keep it.
If the answer was No, it went in the pile of giving away or selling.

After doing this, I felt freed up on the inside of me.
Like having more energy, and being happier.
More Free in my Soul.

The same applies on to when you are cleaning your home.
You get rid of the dust and dirtiness, and your home looks and smell fresh again.

When we clear up our life and belongings, we open up for something new and better to come in.
When our home is clean, we are saying to the Universe that we respect what we have.
We all love respect, right?

If you are not sure about keeping or giving away some of your stuff, you can put it in a separate box, and storage it for a year. Then you can open it again, and see what you feel about it then. This way you are not regretting getting rid of something, but at the same time, not letting it clog your energy.

There is no right or wrong, in whether you like to have the same furniture and belongings for a lifetime, or you like change.
Do what feels right for you.

Personally, I have become more conscious on what I bring into my life.
I get what feels right for me, brings me joy, makes my life easier.
And, things I will actually use and treasure.
It doesn’t have to be brand new, either way it will be new for me.

Try it out for one room at a time, and see how you feel about it.

 

Have a wonderful day!

 

Protecting Your Aura

Being a sensitive person can be experienced as a gift, and a curse.

On the bright side, it can enrich our lives beyond what we can observe with our 5 senses.
On the less bright side, it can some times drain our energy, whatever we do.
That is, if you don’t know how to protect your energy.

It might be hard to know if your energy is getting drained, because we have adjusted to the idea of feeling tired, feeling sick, worried, etc.

Whether you are picking up on other people’s emotions and energies, or you are receiving negative thoughts from others (thoughts are energies), it’s important to protect your energy.

You are not helping yourself or anybody else, by taking on other’s low vibrations.
Those people will still be the same, and you will be lowered too, likely not being able to help them feeling better.

When you stay strong in your energy body, you can see the situation more clearly, and give better advice on how to solve the problem in your friend’s life.
You will also be able to make them feel better, as high vibrational energy nullifies lower frequencies.

How do you know that your Energy is being drained/affected?

If you are a very sensitive person towards energies around you, and in other people’s emotional state, it’s easy to get into some kind of specific reaction, to help you feel better, (grounded / back in your body).
Most likely, this reaction is happening so often, that you are not even thinking about it anymore.

Say you are at work, and a coworker or a customer leaves you feeling unbalanced, without being able to put words onto how.
So you grab something to eat, or a cigarette, to make you feel some better.
Or you long to get home and make something extra good for dinner, which will make you feel more relaxed after eating.
Maybe you get a sudden crave for chocolate or ice cream, or a pastry.
You might not just being addicted to sugar or nicotine, as you have been thinking…
The reason you are reaching out for food or sweets, is that by eating, you ground yourself.
The fat is comforting, as breast milk is for a new born baby.
Deep down you remember this connection, it’s that simple.

Other ways you can notice you are getting affected by other people’s energies:
* You feel tired after meeting someone, or talking on the phone
* Tired/exhausted/sleepy for no reason
* Suddenly feeling unhappy or sad
* Becoming negative
* Worries that are unusual to you
* Headache that won’t go away with painkillers
* Sudden pains in different parts of your body
* Becoming angry for no apparent reason
* Becoming angry at the person you spoke with, or someone, for no reason
* Starting a fight over nothing
* Negative thoughts about somebody else
* Sudden worries about problems in somebody else’s life
* Feeling anxious
* Feeling sick

An easy way to see if what you are feeling is coming from you, or somebody else, is to take a shower.
If you feel better while you are under the running water, then you have been picking up on other peoples energies.
Of course, if you are actually having a fever, the chances are that you are sick, and the symptoms are coming from there.
I’m only talking about symptoms that are coming from Energies, not real illness.

The Human Energy Field

Every living being has an energy field around them, know as Aura.
The Aura is a reflection of how we feel, our thoughts, strong worries or joyfulness, our spiritual state, and our health.

Our energy field stretches normally 1.2-1.5 meters away from our physical body, and can diminish and extend depending our emotional state and health.
A healthy and happy person have a larger Aura, while someone who is sick or depressed, or dealing with addictions, will have a diminished and weakened Aura.
Health issues will show up in your Aura, before it becomes an illness in your body.

When we are interacting with other people, we are also interacting with their energy field.
This is how you might know that something is wrong, before those people even speak to you.

When we think about somebody, our thoughts are sent into their energy field.
If they are not protecting themselves, or they are sick, they are more easily affected by your thoughts.
This is useful if we are praying for somebody, sending them healing, and are wishing them good.
If we are thinking negatively about someone, our thoughts will affect and lower their energy Aura, making them more easily worried, sad, depressed, anxious, sick, etc.
The stronger the emotional level we are having while we are thinking about someone, the stronger the impact on them will be.

How to protect your Energy

Around your Aura, there is an Energy Shield, that keeps your Aura in balance.

The strength of this energy shield depends on your mood, life power, and your sense of security.
Regular physical exercise helps, as it makes the oxygen flow in your body stronger, and your energy is moving.
Just do something you like, as it also uplifts you and makes you healthier.

If you are working as a nurse, with children or the elderly, you will be more sensitive to other’s energies, while a police man will have developed a stronger energy shield because of his/her job.

The effect of protection and clearing of your energy field, depends on the strength of your intention, belief of it to work, and your vibrational state.
By practicing it regularly, it will become easier to see/feel immediate effect or results.

Here is some simple, and easy, ways to protect your energy field:

◊ When you wake up in the morning, breathe deeply several times.
If you have time, I recommend a short meditation, which balance you before you interact with the world around you.

◊ Grounding your energy several times a day.
You can stamp your feet on the ground, taking deep breaths, or spending time in nature.
Or, visualize that your energy goes up and out your head. Connect to the Universal Light above you. Take this with you down into your body, and let it go through your body, down to your feet. Here let it go out of the soles of your feet, and down into the Earth, like the roots on a tree. Connect to the Center of the Earth, and bring this energy back up your roots, into your feet, and up your body until the top of your head.
You have now grounded and balanced yourself in the Universe and the Earth.

◊ Surround yourself with the Blue Flame of The Great Protector.
This flame creates a shield around you, and only allows positive energies to come in to your Aura.
Either visualize the flame around your energy field, or say “I surround myself with the Blue Flame of The Great Protector, right now”.
This is recommended to do before you go to sleep, and when you wake up.
Or whenever you feel you need protection.

◊ Ask the Creator of All That Is to surround you with Divine White Light.

◊ Visualize that you are surrounded by an Energy Egg, with thick walls that acknowledge all kind of energy, and only allow uplifting and loving energy to enter in to you.
Or say: “I am surrounded by an Energy Egg that only allows light and positive energies to enter.”
Inside the Egg, you can also visualize that it is filled with Divine Energy, Healing Light, Universal Love, and all that is good for you.

◊  If you are a person who finds it hard to say No to others, it will benefit you greatly to start doing it, when something is not right for you.
Learn to say No.
This strengthens your energy in yourself, and you respect yourself more.
You do not need to explain yourself, as it weakens your energy, in the sense that you have to prove something to others.
Remember that others might be a bit upset in the beginning, as they are not used to you saying No.
But, eventually they will respect you more, because you respect yourself.

◊ You can also use crystals or essential oils.
Crystals need to be cleansed and re-energized regularly.
I recommend to talk with a specialist on crystals, where they are selling them, to find the one best fitting you.
The same goes for essential oils, as there is a wide variety in purity, and usage areas.

◊ Regularly clear and balance your Chakras.
(I will come back with a separate post on this subject.)

How to clear your Energy if you are already affected

If you notice that you are already being affected by other’s energies, you can try some of the following:

◊ Breathing deeply several times, brings you back into your body.
Feel how the air fills up your lungs, and makes your stomach expand.
If you are used to breathe deeply while meditating, this can have a great impact on you, centering back into your self in seconds.

◊ The Violet Flame of The Great Protector.
Visualize a violet flame around you, or burning through your body, from head to heels.
Or say “I burn The Violet Flame around and through me to clear away all kinds of low vibrational energy.”
This will clear away low vibrational energy in any form.

◊ Say: “I clear away all energy I have picked up from others, and is not of my own.”
Say it with some power in your words, and strong intention.
It works.

◊ Sea Salt baths or foot baths.
Sea salt has a cleansing effect on our energy field.
Just think of how refreshing it is on your thoughts walking by the sea, or go swimming.
Make a nice bath with pure sea salt in the water, or a bowl with warm water and some sea salt in it.
Sit or lie for as long as you feel like.
Flush out the water after use.
If you prefer, you can mix some sea salt with your shower soap, and get a body scrub at the same time!

◊ Call on The Great Protector or the Creator of All That Is, and ask them to cut all energy cords from and to you, and clear the energy cords as they return.
And ask them to seal your energy field.

 

I hope you found this post interesting, and enjoyed it as much as I enjoyed writing it.

My best wishes for you to stay centered in your own energy.