How To Live Your Life Without Regrets

There is one thing we all have in common,
no matter who we are, or where we are in Life.

We don’t know when our time in this Life is up.

We can take all the precautions we like,
eating healthy, exercising, staying out of danger.

In the end,
some things are out of our reach of control.

It is not all about what we manifest, or create.

It is not all about bad luck,
and being at the wrong place at the wrong time.

Some things are a part of a bigger picture,
that we can not see through human eyes.


What would you regret, that you said?

What would you regret, that you did?

What would you wish you had done,
if you could do it all over again?

A part of our human experience is the power of Free Will.
We can do what we want to do,
even though it might not be the right thing for our Soul’s journey.

And often we let our feelings get in the way of what we really want,
because it is easier.
It is what we are used to.

It is easier to walk away, or avoid someone,
than to say I’m sorry.

It is easier to change the subject,
than to tell someone how much they mean to you.

It is easier to keep on your habitual behavior,
than to change.

I don’t mean that you don’t have the right to experience your emotions.

What I mean is that there will come a time,
when there is no more time.

No more opportunities to say:
I love you
I am sorry
I forgive you
I am so grateful for all you have done for me
Thank you

And all you have left,
is regret.

For all the beautiful moments you could have had together.

For all you wished you had said,
but where to afraid to.

All it might take for a Life to end,
is a walk to the kiosk.

Or driving home from work.

You never know when the time is up.

It is not too late

All we have is this moment.

And in this moment you can choose to to say those things
you one day will regret not to have said.

You can choose to say I’m sorry,
even when you don’t feel it at the moment.

You can choose to give someone a compliment,
even though you want to run and hide.

You can choose to always tell your loved ones that you love them,
before leaving your home.

You can choose to put away your phone,
and be present with your family and friends.

You can choose to pick up that phone and call,
even if it was also you calling the last time.

And if something happens,
and they are no longer there,
you will know that you did your best.

They will know how much they mean to you.


Decide who is worth to be in your life

Having a relationship with other people,
is a two-way road.

If you find yourself to be the only one giving,
have the courage to let them know how you feel about it.

Sometimes they are too absorbed in their own lives, to see you.

Sometimes you must see that your relationship with yourself is more important.
And choose to walk away.

Think about it…


Thank you,
and take good care until next time!




Feeling of Urgency

A common feeling after entering the Spiritual Path,
is a feeling of urgency.

A feeling of too little time, and too much to learn.

A urge to read all the books you can come across,
enter workshops, or watch videos on YouTube.

Preferably, you wish you could place an order to the Universe,
and just download all the information you need.
Ready to go.

For most of us, that will only stay as a wishful dream.

We can’t understand more than what we are ready for.

Thankfully, there is more information available for us now, than ever before.

Internet is here to connect us.
We got YouTube and social media.
Seminars and webinars.
Books are written by a larger and larger amount of people that want to share their messages and knowledge.

This is Our Time.

It’s no longer only for a few “chosen ones”.

This feeling of urgency,
is a calling from our Soul for us to wake up.

Remembering who we are.

And why we are here.


We no longer hold the luxury of living with what Life throws at us.

Times have Changed.

The Universe has Changed.

Expanding into a New Level.

Like the pupa inside his cocoon.
It’s his Destiny to transform into a beautiful Butterfly.

We are here to Shine Our Light.

To Love.

Show Compassion for each other.

Come together.

To Heal.

We are here to Rise Our Vibration.

We are here to help our Planet.

It is time to let go of the fear.
Illusion of what we have been told.

It is time to follow our Hearts.

To follow what makes us truly happy.

Together we can change the world.

But it all starts inside each one of us.



Keep a Monthly Focus List

This year I have kept my New Year Resolution!
As I wrote in my post A Different View on New Year’s Resolutions,
I felt it was time to do something new.

In the beginning of each month,
I write a small list of what I want to focus on for the month ahead.

Sometimes I know what I want to focus on.
Other times, I sit down and ask my Soul what I need now,
and write down what pops into my head.

Personally, I like to write it down in my notebook.

I give it a whole page, even though it might be just a few lines.
In a way, I feel I honor my intentions and thoughts by giving them space.

The trick is to keep it simple.

When I put too much on my list,
it’s easy to slip out.

My Monthly Focus List is to add Value in my Life,
not give me stress.


By keeping a Monthly Focus List,
it’s easier to actually get to do some of what we tend to think about,
but doesn’t happen because of all the other things that we must do in our daily life.

Some things on your list might appear for every month.
Like dedication to meditate more often,
or to do the Daily Energy Routine I posted in my previous post
(Strengthen Your Health in 5-7 Minutes Daily).

What you put on your list is totally up to you.

Have fun with it!


What is Your Identity?

When we meet new people for the first time, we ask them:
“Who are you?”

What would you answer, if you were asked this question?

The first answer most people give, is:
What’s their name
Where they work, and what they do there
If they are studying, and what subjects

When we connect further, we get to learn about:
Their relationship status
If they are a parent or grand parent
Where they live
Where they grew up
What they studied in school
What age they have
Their hobbies or interests
Their political view on subjects that comes up

All these things are what we use to Identify ourselves,
Who we are.

Most likely, we never think much about Who we are.

Throughout our life, we have heard those answers, more or less, to this question.
We took it on as a fact, this is our identification.

What then, when life changes, and you can no longer relate to those aspects?

When we Lose Our Identity

A close friend of mine got sick, and became unable to work.

For the first year, he had sickness leave from his work place.
It was easy, he had his job, and knew what to answer.
Just unable to work at the moment due to health problems.
He was very optimistic, and couldn’t wait to get back to his job, which he loved.

Time passed, and his sickness leave ended.
And he found himself unable to work, not even a few hours.
He had tried that.

Another year passed, and there has been not much of a change.
He was invited to a party, with some of his friends.
As we do on parties, we mingle, and get to know people we didn’t know from before.
People asked him: “What do you do?”
He didn’t want to reveal that he was unable to work because of his health.
So, he answered with his name, and his education title.

Next year came.
My friend was still very focused on getting back to work, he loved his education very much.
But he started to realize that it could take a little bit of time.
Being asked “Who are you” became a bit of a challenge.
Would he ever be able to get back to work, and use his education?
So, he started to answer with what else he loved.
Like photographing, reading, and listening to music.
The fact was, he tried all he could to get healthy again.
Eventually, they would ask him what he does for a living.
Out of other options, he would say that he’s on his most important work ever, getting his health back.
And then they would ask what had happened to him.
He didn’t want to answer that.
His illness wasn’t Who he IS.

Neither his work title.
Or his education.


Losing your Identity can feel traumatic.

When, what you have thought of yourself, your whole life, is gone.

You have to get to know yourself.

For most people this happens through illness, or death of someone close to them.
Or you get to lose your job.
Or getting divorced.
The same goes for when we wake up one day, and realize that we are Strangers in our Own Life.

You don’t have to go through those events, in order to change what you think of yourself.

Who Are You?

It’s time to rebuild ourselves.

It’s time to stop letting the outside world determine us.

It’s time to remember who we Truly are.


You are a Divine Being, in a Human Body.

You are an Amazing Spirit and Soul.


Think of all the things that makes You Special.

What qualities do you have?

Being Present
Lightening up those around you

Take some time and think about it.

What do you feel?

When we shift to think of who we are from an Inside Perspective,
we feel better with ourselves.
We are not depending on an outside world to give us identification.

In the beginning, it can be a little frightening.
This is completely normal.

Be gentle with yourself.

Now, you can choose to change aspects of yourself, if you want to.
Become a more loving person, or patient with your children.
Become less stressed, or angry.
You can strengthen specific qualities in you,
and change the ones you don’t like so much.

You are Free to Choose Who You Want To Be.


My best wishes for you.


What’s there for you to Learn?

All things that happen in our lives – good or bad – carry an opportunity for us to learn from the experience.

I know how it feels like when everything feels like a struggle, or there seems to be no way out of a problem.

It’s easy to fall into the ditch of self pity, and feel like a victim of Life.
Calling your friends for sympathy, having them agreeing with your view on the situation.
After all, you did the best you could do!
It’s not your fault that the economy is going down, and the politicians make everything even worse than it was.

Just keep an open mind for a bit…

When we decide to open up our thoughts for the possibility that there is a bigger picture at play, something shifts in us.

You get a glimpse of Hope.

Ask yourself:
“What can I learn from this situation?”


If it’s an illness or pain in your body, ask that part of your body if it has a message for you.
Maybe you need to change something in your diet, exercise more, or just have more fun in your life!

If your parents have a hard time to show you compassion and support, maybe they are missing it themselves.
Talk with them.
You might discover that when they were young, their parents told them that they must be realistic and get a real job, not follow a fantasy.
Now, you give both yourself and them an opportunity to heal.
And maybe getting a better relationship too.

If your company closes down because of the economy, you might realize that you never even liked your job that much, in the first place.
Now you are free to apply for an another one, without feeling guilty for choosing something new.
Or go back to school to learn something new!
Even start your own business, and follow a long-lost dream.

Or, as in a story I read today.
A young woman working as paramedics in an ambulance.
In her work, she saw children being afraid of following the ambulance.
It can be a traumatic experience for every adult, to rush off to the hospital, when you are sick or have been in an accident.
Fear of the unknown makes everything worse.
So she came up with the idea of entertaining the children, to make their ride a little less scary.
She started by making balloon animals using plastic gloves.
After new year, just a few weeks ago, she created a Facebook page, and asked people to knit small teddy bears, that they could give to the children in the ambulance.
Now, the response is so good, that they might have enough tiny teddy bears for all of the ambulances in the country.
A small gift that gives support, hope and comfort in a traumatic time.
Her idea and initiative, changes the lives of many children in her community.
Thanks to this wonderful woman, and all those loving Souls donating knitted teddy bears.


Every adversity is an opportunity for you to grow as a Human and Spirit.

Every problem is a potential Treasure.

It doesn’t matter if it’s in your Personal Life, or in your Community.

Use it to improve your Life, and the World.

Be ready to understand yourself and others more.

Be ready to follow your new insight.

How to Stay Centered in Times of Turbulence

This time we are living in, is more intense than ever before.
There are so much going on, both on the inside and around us.
Everything is happening at a much quicker pace than it used to be.
What, just a few years ago would take months, now only takes days or a week.

I see this so clearly when I’m talking with my friends.
When it’s been some time since last time we caught up, it becomes obvious.
My friends ask me about something that was going on in my life back then.
And I… It feels like ages ago.
Almost a different life.
How did they even remember that?
I can barely remember what happened yesterday, as it feels like I’m spinning too quickly.

It’s also hard to plan ahead, for things I want to do or learn.
By the time I get to it (after finishing what I’m currently doing), I have shifted into new desires.
Or, I just get started and I’m very excited, and 2 weeks later I want/need something else.

And it’s not only in my life, or inside of me.

We are constantly bombarded with information.
From news media, Facebook, Instagram, TV, radio, movies, TV series, walking down the street.
And we kind of feel it’s expected from us, to be up-to-date on everything, at any given time.

Not just that we are constantly bombarded with information, but also the amount of variety in the stuff coming up.
I guess that, no matter where on the Globe you live, you’ve heard about the American President Election that took place last year.
Just that 1 thing, a never-ending thriller of intensity and variety on accusations, drama, speculations, secrets, you name it.
It’s like they had to stuff it with everything possible.

Maybe you are going through your own life changes too.
Feeling you need to change your job, but don’t know what to do next.
Or, you need to move to a new location, but there seems to be something about everywhere you consider.
Changes in friendships, relationships, and family.
Illness, either for yourself, your family or friends.
Economy burdens.

You are not alone.
Most people have more and more things coming up.
It seems like everybody has enough going on in their own lives.

It can feel overwhelming.

This overload of everything that is happening at once, leads to anxiety, stress, sleep problems, constantly body aches, illnesses.

If only there were something like a filter, so we could sort out what we want to take in, and experience…

What you can do

Breathe deep into your stomach, and exhale slowly.
Repeat until you feel more relaxed.
I have noticed that when I breathe deeply and slowly through my meditations, I can calm myself by just breathing deeply a few times, when I get a rush of overwhelming feelings.

◊ Ground and balance your Energy with the Universe and the Earth.
Close your eyes and visualize that your energy goes up and out your head.
Connect to the Universal Light above you.
Take this with you, down into your body, and let it go through your body, down to your feet.
Here let it go out of the soles of your feet, and down into the Earth, like the roots on a tree. Connect to the Center of the Earth, and bring this energy back up through your roots, into your feet, and up your body, until the top of your head.

Read/listen to news only when you feel calm and centered.
Now, you can get a more objective view on it, without getting caught up emotionally.
Most of the news are negative, and spinning on fear.
You do not help anyone by entering a state of fear, hopelessness or depression.

Take a vacation leave from news, even social media.
It can be for 1 day to 1 month. It’s up to you.
Tell your friends and family that you are on a break, and they can tell you if something very important is to be known about.

Take time for yourself regularly.
You have more to give to your family, friends, work, and everyone around you when you take care of your Soul, and what you need to feel better.
See my post What Fills you Up?.

◊ Spend time in Nature.
Nature has a calming effect on us, and helps us to think more clearly.
It doesn’t need to be in the forest or on a mountain top.
Being in a park is also good for us.
Even being surrounded by some flowers and plants in our home.

◊ Meditate.
Meditation helps us to slow down our heart rhythm, and has a calming effect on us.
With some practice, it makes us able to think clearer, have better insight in ourselves, getting more in touch with our intuition, make better decisions, and much much more.
There are many forms of meditation, from breathing, to focus on a single point, to guided meditations to make you feel better, or discover parts of yourself.
If you are new to meditation, you can read my post Meditation Made Easy and Meditation to Release Tension and Self Healing.

◊ Release your fears and negative emotions.
I can’t stress enough, how important this is.
Suppressed emotions get stored in our bodies, and eventually can create illnesses, that we have to heal on our own.
They also work as an magnet that attracts challenges in our life, so we eventually will see them.
We are in a time where we don’t have the “luxury” to close our eyes and say that life is “hard”.
Read my post How to Release your fears and Heal your emotions to easily understand how you can free yourself.

The best way to move stagnant energy in our body, is to move our body.
It can be walking for 15 minutes, running or bicycling, or dancing.
Do what gives you joy, and do it several times a week.
Yoga and qigong are also good ways to move your energy and body in gentle ways.

◊ Being in the Moment.
ALL we have is THIS moment.
If we live our lives in the future or the past,
there will -eventually- come one day, that we’ll regret not living our lives, or treasured those around us.

◊ Be kind with yourself.
We have a tendency to be hard on ourselves, and don’t think we are good enough.
This is not true.
We are Wonderful just as We Are.
Treat yourself like you treat your best friends.
Tell yourself how proud you are of what you have done.
You are so much better than you let yourself think!

◊ Be Positive.
The good thing with time spinning quicker, is that whatever is going on, won’t stay like this for too long.
Change will come.
Use the time to figure out what you want, and why you want it, so you are ready when the time for new opportunities are there.

I hope you found this helpful.

I’m wishing you all the best in your Life.
And, take good care of Yourself.

A Different View on New Year’s Resolutions

New Years Eve!
2016 is behind us, with all of its good memories, lessons, and wisdom learned.
2017 is just hours away, a blank new chapter in our lives, waiting for us to color the pages.

Some years ago, I used to make New Year’s Resolutions, a new promise to myself in the New Year.
I got of good, filled with fresh inspiration and motivation.
Then life happened, and things did not go as I had planned.
I realized that Life is bigger than my Mind’s perspective.
What I thought was what I wanted, wasn’t what my Soul needed, or had in mind for me to experience.

So, I let my Soul have its space, and give me what was up for me to learn, both good and less good.
In our Soul’s perspective, everything is good for us, even what seems otherwise from our Physical point of view.
It have been a memorable journey, which I wouldn’t be without.
As a Spirit, I have grown a lot in these years, and I found the Love of my Life – my Amazing Husband!

This time, for 2017, I have decided on a different view.
Instead of going the traditional way, I will do one month at a time.
In the start of each month, I will write a list of what I want to learn, or experience.
I’ll let it be from both Physical and Soul’s Perspective.
For example, for January, I will start with learning more about Traditional Chinese Medicine, and also go inwards and communicate with my body on the inside.

It’s easy to get caught up in either the physical or spiritual plane, and at times it is needed.
We need both parts to keep balanced.

By planning one month at the time, I won’t lock myself down into a planned schedule, but stay open for even better opportunities to come, and what I will need at the time.
This way I won’t feel I’m failing, or take too much on my shoulders, when I need something else instead.

One important message I have learned, is:
“Don’t be too hard on yourself.”

We are our own biggest judges, and have harder to credit ourselves when we do good.
Be proud of yourself, however it goes.
Love yourself, you are Amazing, just as you are.

I am ready to keep with me all what 2016 have given me, and open for all 2017 will give me.

Let’s have a Wonderful New Year Everybody!


You are not your problems

Most of us have something in our lives that worries us.
Either big or small issue, it seems impossible to clear it away completely.
No matter what you do, the thoughts comes sneaking in every now and then, saying hello, letting you know they are still there.

Now that December is here, and Christmas is coming close, so many are feeling the pressure of everything that is to be done for the Holidays and New Year’s celebration.
Wherever you turn, you get reminded of all you should do – buy nice clothes, buy gifts, longer working hours, bake cookies, get all the food you need, and the list goes on.
As it is a time for joy and happiness, it’s also a time of stress.
And surpressed feelings surfaces.
Lack of money, and not feeling you are good enough, that can’t give what you feel is expected from you.
Not to forget all those who feel extra much on their loneliness in this days.

When a problem get your attention, it’s easy for more of the same to come in and join the party.
What starts with reminders of buying gifts, can easily slip into thoughts of not having enough money, then thinking of that you really need a new laptop and how to afford it, who to buy gifts for, who are really your friends anyway, everybody else seem so happy, and you feel more alone than ever.

You are not your problems.

Look at the strangers around you.
What do you see?
Most likely you notice those who seems happy, smiling, having friends, spending their money….
What you feel you are missing in your life.
How can you know that their life is perfect?
You don’t.
You can only see this moment.
Their life might be falling apart, but you can’t see it.
Their problems are not who they are.
The same goes for you.

Focus on this moment, right here and now.
On what you are doing.
Life is so much more than worries.
When we get hung up on a problem, it’s like we get blind shades on, and our vision narrows down to what is wrong our lives.
Gently remind yourself of this moment, and you will break the cycle, one step at a time.

When we are able to see the bigger picture, what we felt was a big problem, might not be that big in perspective, as we let ourself see and feel.
Then, your worries lose some of their power on you.
And you open up for a solution to come, because you have a bigger perspective, and can see beyond the blinding shades.

Problems that shows up in our lives, are lessons for us to learn.
Ask yourself, what can I learn from this experience?
The answer might not come right away.
Maybe do you need to give it time, a night of sleep, or meditate on it.
When we focus too hard on finding answers, we are blocking them from coming clearly to us.
Distract yourself, and it will come to you when you least expect it.
It might also come through other people, telling you something, or you read an article or a book, and when you read a word or some lines, it just hits you, you know the answer.

Once you have learned the lesson on Soul Level, it might not come up again, unless it is a part of a bigger picture you can not see yet.
But, you can clear up one lesson at a time, and for each one you will get better in total.
Like one piece in a puzzle find it’s correct place in the picture.
Thank the problem for showing up, so you got a chance to clear up in your Life Lessons.
For each lesson you learn, you will shine a bit brighter, and feel a bit better.

One thing I have learned is;
Don’t be too hard on yourself.

You are a wonderful Soul,
And nothing can take that away from You.